Neutral help

This is help obtained with money. The givers of help are making a fair exchange. When
you pay others to give you help, they give a fair amount of help. Because the helper is
ignored, neutral help is of fair quality. This is the way most of us get help today. We hire it
or we buy it in the market place. When I go to McDonalds, I paythem five dollars to give
me help if the form of a meal.

Neutral relationships are ignoring and average experiences. The giver of help experiences
a draw. He is unchanged by the act of helping you. Neutral relationships are ignoring and
static experiences. He is the same after helping as before. When you ignore those who help
you, this is why you get only mediocre help.

Neutral INTERdependence — Fair Market
Sometimes I payothers to giveme help and sometimes otherspay me to givethem help.
We are both buyers and sellers of help

Macys, Sears, Mervyns, Pennys, Costco, K-Mart, Circuit City, etc., etc. — malls, stores,
markets, shops, and restaurants — are all examples of neutral help. The yellow pages in
the telephone book are lists of places where you can purchase help. Capitalism’s fair
market is where you purchase neutral help. You buy help in the open market place at a
fair market exchange price. This is the modern free world where help is sold as products
and services.

The "fair market" provides humanity a neutral form of INTERdependence. When we buy
and sell in the fair market, we are still depending on each other. Humans in neutral
relationship still depend on others to meet their needs. However in the fair market place
of neutrality, the helpers are anonymous. This anonymity is what allows us to feel
independent. Our belief systems in the Western ‘free’ world rest heavily on the core belief
in independence even while this belief is obviously false.

let us take a closer look a the Fair Marketthat dominates our world today. The mechanism
of relationship is conducted through a free and fair market with the honest exchange of
merchandise of good value at a fair price.

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FAIR TRADE—def—> The bartering to insure that the exchange is fair — to
insure that the price is not too high or too low — to insure that neither party
loses.

Human Neutrality is about fairness. The market place is a fair and safe place to exchange
goods and services. Neither seller nor buyer should be injured in the exchange. Products
should represent a good value and be sold at a fair price. All citizens are guaranteed
freedom from loss.

In the free market of Neutrality, our identities and personal relationships are unimportant.
We purchase products anonymously, usually without knowing the seller’s name, or he
ours. When I enter McDonalds to purchase my lunch, I see only the product, the
hamburger stacked in the warmer. I ignore the clerk. I don’t know her name or her story. I
see the hamburger, that’s what I want. The clerk behind the counter ignores me. She
doesn’t know my name or my story. She sees my five dollars, that’s what she wants.

The store is clean and I feel safe. I expect the kitchen is clean and I will get a good product
for a fair price. We will trade. We will speak the neutral words of the trading ritual. I
never knowing her name, she never knowing mine. “May I help you?” “Thank you and
have a nice day.” We trade.

Now our trade is fair. By definition, the lunch McDonalds is selling has a fair market value
of $5.00. My five dollars has a fair market value of $5.00. We trade fairly. Economically
nothing much has changed for me. I had five dollars in cash when I entered McDonalds,
and I left with five dollars worth of lunch. My net worth is the same.

While I obviously got some utility from the exchange, I preferred the lunch to my cash. In a
strict economic sense, I am little changed by this exchange. In fair exchanges, $5.00 in cash
equals $5.00 in food. In fact, McDonalds created the lunch for less than $5.00, the fair
market price contains some profit for the seller. But, when I earned my $5.00, I did it by I
selling some product or service that cost me a little less. I’m entitled to a profit when I sell
products or services. That’s the neutral way.

If we analyze neutral relationships, we discover that in a neutral exchange (1+1) = 2.
Humans institute Neutrality to escape Adversity — to protect themselves from loss.

The first principle of human Neutrality is to AVOID LOSS.

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In the language of games, where you can win, lose, or draw, we are obtaining a draw. We,
like the plants, will be ignored by the experience. We will be the same after the experience
as before. The advantageof changing from Adversity to Neutrality is not that we will win,
but rather that we will avoid losing.

Neutrality offers a safe haven for humans. With Neutrality it is possible for us humans to
avoid playing the adversary game. We are free to work without fear that others will hurt
us. We are free and independent citizens. We are free to create products or provide
services and sell those in the great market for a fair price.

The capitalistic economics of Neutrality produces a major advance over the economics of
Adversity. Humans using neutral organization are much more successful than those using
adversarial organization. Because human needs and wants are many and complex and
there is no way any individual can meet these needs, we have evolved the great market.
We operate as independent producers and consumers. Each neutral citizen is responsible
for purchasing their own needs and wants.

Neutral relationships are ignoring. The parties in these relationships experience no change.
They barter to insure that the exchange is fair — to insure that the price is not too high or
too low — to insure that neither party loses. The open market of free enterprise generates a
zone of neutrality which markedly reduces adversary relations. Neutral systems gain a
marked production advantage over adversary systems. They are significantly more
productive. However, this is primarily because they are not adversary.

In a neutral relationship, one individual plus another individual are the same after the
relationship. (1+1) = 2. When you pay others to help you, offering them a fair wage in an
atmosphere marked by indifference, the helper draws and will typically give you only
average quality help.

Neutrality is that place where I work just hard enough to avoid getting fired, and, my
employer pays me just enough to keep me from quitting. Neutral relationships are
marked by accidental conflict, moderate effectiveness and average productivity.

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Product Tensegrity
When we obtain help from others by payment of money, we are entering into theProduct
Tensegrity
. Now in the Fair Market, productsare the actionswe need to purchase to meet
our
needs. Products include knowingin the form of expertise, consultation, and
counseling. Products include
actionin the form of physical labor and services. And
products include
leverslike tools, appliances, automobiles, computers, homes, food, etc.,
etc., created by action to meet our needs.

Now if we examine these products, we discover they are continuously made available in
the fair market by sellers for sale to buyers who only occasionally purchase them. And so
we see the emergence of theProduct Tensegrity. Productsare continuously available
and pullingon the buyer to enter the fair market, but the buyer is only occasionally
interested in making a purchase. Many of our stores are open 24 hours a day, seven days a
week, 52 weeks a year — continuously pulling. But, I only shop on Friday afternoons —
discontinuously pushinginto the fair market.

Like all tensegrities, the larger it is the more stable it is. In nature, we find that the larger the
fair market — the greater the numbers of buyers and sellers , the more stable are prices
and supplies of commodities. Recall the natural Needs-Action Tensegrity of Life. Needs
are continuously pulling on me take action to meet them.

Needs
Continuous-Pull
Passive



Actions
Discontinuous-Push
Active

For human beings, life and survival then is all about thecontinuing pullof our needsand
the discontinuous pushof the actionstaken to meet those needs. Some of the actions are
our own, but most of the actions are the giftsof others.

Needs
Continuous-Pull
Passive
Receivers of Help




Actions
Discontinuous-Push
Active
Givers of Help

Recall the alternating rolesof self and other. Sometimesself is a giver of help. Sometimes
self is a receiver of help. Sometimes otheris a giver of help. Sometimes otheris a receiver
of help
.

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Within the Product Tensegrity this means, sometimes I am the buyer and pay other to give
me help, and sometimes I am the seller accepting payment to give my help to others.

Within the Product Tensegrity,the buyers are the active members. The seller is
continuously available to accept payment to give their help to others. For an
INTERdependent species like humanity that means that the Receivers of help are the
active members. The givers of help must be continuously available to discontinuous
buying whims of the receivers of help.

Now compared with thenatural pattern,

Needs
Continuous-Pull
Passive
Receivers of Help




Actions
Discontinuous-Push
Active
Givers of Help

We see that the within the Product TensegrityActions andNeedshave switched places as
have theGivers of Helpand Receivers of Help. TheSellersis paidto give helpin the
form of theiractions to meet theneedsof the Buyers.

Seller
*Actions
Continuous-Pull
Passive
*Givers of Help





Buyer
*Needs
Discontinuous-Push
Active
*Receivers of Help

This reversal continues from the Coercion Tensegrity. Within the Product Tensegrity,the
buyers are the active members. The sellers are continuously available to meet the needs of
the buyers. For an INTERdependent species like humanity that means that the Receivers of
help are the active members. The givers of help must be continuously available to the
discontinuous buying whims of the receivers of help. The buyers are in control.

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Traders -- the neutral relationship
As a trader in the Product Tensegrity, I am continuously selling my help and
discontinuously buying help from others. As a seller I am courteous to the buyer because
I want his repeat business. But my focus in selling my product for as high a price as I can
get to make a good profit. As a buyer, I am civil to seller. But, I am seeking a bargain. I
want to pay as little as I can for the product. I definitely don' want to pay too much.

We view each other as independent and separate individuals. We are not enemies.
Although we usually act in a friendly manner, we are not really friends.16

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Humanity was right when we chose Neutrality over Adversity. But Neutrality is only a
stage in the evolution of our species. Neutrality does not make us independent, it simply
hides our INTERdependence in the anonymity of the fair market. Our human culture is
evolving and becoming evermore complex, it is time now to move beyond Neutrality. It is
time to embrace Synergy.

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16Read moreon Human Neutralityin the Appendix.

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Synergic help

This is help obtained withtrust. The givers of help aretrustingthose they help to help
them in return. The givers of help trust that their gift of help will generate trust in those
who receive their gifts and a desire to help the givers in return. Synergic help is when we
help each other by working together. We make sure that whenever anyone helps us, they
also benefit and find themselves helped in return. Synergic helpthen is that help attracted
by giving help to others. It is help attracted by co-Operating with others — working
together to solve mutual problems.

"From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from
the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked."17

"At the present time your plenty will supply what they need, so that in turn
their plenty will supply what you need. Then there will be equality."18

"Throw in your lot with us, and we will share a common purse."19

"The man with two tunics should share with him who has none, and the one
who has food should do the same."20

This very old idea of giving and receiving, all but abandoned in our modern capitalistic
world, is beginning to again draw the attention of those working for the Synergic
Evolution
.21

Synergic scientists are telling us that life forms have needs and that to meet those needs

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17Jesus of Nazareth, New Testament of the Holy Bible (NIV) Luke 12:48
18Jesus of Nazareth, New Testament of the Holy Bible (NIV) 2Corinthians 8:14
19Jesus of Nazareth, New Testament of the Holy Bible (NIV) Proverbs 1:14
20John the Baptist, New Testament of the Holy Bible (NIV) Luke 3:11
21Synergic Evolution— The term evolution is used in place of the expected word revolution because

there has never been a synergic society. Revolution means to come around — to revolve.

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